More Marriage Issues
Mid Life Crisis.
This is an issue that is very common with most men and women suffering from it at some stage,
whether they admit it or not.
However it can impact seriously on a marriage if it is not brought under control. In very severe
cases it can lead to depression. With women it often occurs with menopause bringing with it the realization that
her child bearing days are over.
Then there is the increased look of ageing with lines becoming apparent around the eyes and
wrinkles appearing, and the general lack of energy and increasing health problems and aches in the joints. And to
top it all every child that she has loved and nurtured for years has flown the nest.
With men it's usually the drop off in libido, anxiousness over the job and maintaining rank and
respect in the position, keeping up with technology, concerns over providing for their old age and of course many
of the health problems that their wives suffer from.
Generally speaking in the back of the mind, regardless of the particular issue, whether male or
female, is the realization of mortality.
This period is often a time fraught with severe relationship problems with many marriages that
had survived 30 or 40 years heading for the divorce court.
For more information on this vital topic check out our article
Marriage issues involving illness.
The matter of illness, be it the husband or wife, often leads to stress in
a marriage and can be extremely draining, particularly if that illness is of a serious nature. It can be
difficult to be supportive in these circumstances especially if the illness is long term or terminal, or as a
result of dementia.
As hard as it may be try and concentrate on the good times and provide your partner with all the
support you can muster, be patient with them talk with them, and endeavor to comfort them. Often it is helpful to
contemplate what it would be like if you were in their position... how would you wish to be treated?
Marriage issues involving children.
This subject is covered further in our article
on marriage and
There are matters relating to the effects of divorce on children that we will cover briefly
Possibly the most detrimental effect of an impending marriage breakup or divorce on children is
the loss of security that will encompass them. It is so vitally important for children to grow up in an atmosphere
of love and tolerance. Children need stability and nurturing to become well rounded adults.
Never argue in front of a child about matters that involve their upbringing, place in the
family, or the impact that have had on the marriage. Children will invariably take such matters to heart and
conclude that they are the cause of the disharmony. Such behavior in front of a child can have a detrimental effect
on their self worth.
The effects of divorce on a child particularly an adolescent are often the cause of a kid going
off the rails and associating with bad elements, becoming drug and alcohol dependent or even turning to crime.
Social agencies will tell you that these are indisputable facts.
Check out our topic on stopping
Research has shown that divorce and unhappy marriages are more than likely to affect a child's
performance at school. Children from broken homes generally have inferior academic achievement levels than those
living in homes where there is a harmonious and loving atmosphere.
Unfortunately no matter what you do to soften the impact of divorce or disharmony in a marriage
there will always be a residual effect on a child. Ensure that you maintain loving contact with them, involve them
in your activities if possible and involve yourself in theirs.
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More marriage help
If you want more information on resolving any of these issues, or with any other problems in
your marriage then we recommend that you check out Amy Waterman's and Andrew Rusbatch's "Save My Marriage Today" guide.
This very comprehensive save your marriage guide provides practical solutions to many marital problems such as
those difficult unresolved issues that may be killing your relationship.