After a Break Up - What To Do
What are the solutions to coping with life after a marriage break
Unfortunately, over 45% of
first time marriages in most western countries end in divorce. The percentages are much higher for second and
subsequent marriages. Some people are able to cope after a break up because it brings relief from an
unbearable marital situation. Others of us have difficulty in coming to
terms with the loss
and change in status...
If you have recently broken up does your to-do list look something like
- Watch loads of TV
- Walk the dog
- Avoid the neighbors
- Avoid your friends
- Cry a lot
All these things, and many others are normal responses to feelings of loss after a break up.
During the early stages of a separation your actions will be fueled by emotion.
Some relationship break up advice.
If your marriage has irretrievably broken down, then it really doesn't matter who has been the
one to walk away at the end of the day. This relationship is now over and matters such as care of children,
finances, chattels and property need to be sorted out on a legal basis and then it's time to start a new life.
Don’t ever let your partner make you feel guilty. You’re ready to begin a new phase in your life
and it will not include a romantic relationship with your ex. It is best if you retain a positive relationship of
some sort with them, but if the relationship has ended for the right reasons then separation is best for both of
If you feel you need professional help because you just can't manage surviving a break up on
your own then consult a marriage counselor or check out
our reviews of the top marriage guides.
All of these guides are available as an instant download. In one of these you may very well find the answers you
need to help put your life back on track.
What do you do when your marriage is over?
Conclude ownership and child care matters as quickly as possible then take the opportunity to
put yourself back together and start again.
The responsibility of having to cope with these details in the early stages of relationships
breaking up is a frightening concept. Try to be positive, let go of self pity and force yourself to engage in
activities that will help pull you out of your feelings of emptiness.
Should you ever consider reconnecting?
Does ending a relationship always mean “the end, close the book”?
That is something you have to decide. A good many relationships can be saved after a break up if certain conditions are met. If you have the time and
are willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.
However, if you are both determined to walk away rather than attempt to save your marriage then it’s best to end a relationship with a clean break and move
Moving on after a break up.
Just remember that there are always people out there who are going to treat you with love and
respect and provide a shoulder for you to cry on.
Take the opportunity to discuss your position with your friends, as and when appropriate. If you
feel uncomfortable doing this or with consulting a counselor then there are many support groups out there
who are familiar with the trauma of relationship break ups and will gladly take you under their wing and provide
you with the emotional support and guidance that you may need.
However don't rely too heavily on any relationship to conquer your feelings of loss or
It is important to understand that others can only provide support and guidance... the remedy is
really in your hands.
It is vitally important that you concentrate on building your confidence and self esteem as
early as possible after a break up. Give it time; the sadness of your loss will pass. Happiness, the like you have
never known, may be just around the corner.
Break up support
A marriage break up can be almost likened to a death in the family... it appears so final.
The suffering that it causes the parties involved can be quite devastating and may even lead to
depression and the inability to deal with any possible future relationship.
Many people find it difficult to cope with a break up without professional help, to this end we
strongly recommend Amy Waterman's "Save My Marriage Today Premium Home Study
Your marriage might very well be over, however this guide will provide you with the
information and means to get over your break up and move on... perhaps into a new